May 29, 2017 by nessbow

Toy review: Slick dildo by Tantus

Can you believe that Masturbation Month is nearly over and I haven’t written a single toy review? Well luckily the sweet folks at Tantus sent me the Slick Dildo to test and review for you. So in celebration of Masturbation May, let’s get down to it.

Working on a toy review tonight. These fantastic dildos are the Slick small and large from Tantus. I had great fun putting these through their paces. #sexgeek #Tantus #dildo #slick #sexpositive #blogger

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The Slick is one of Tantus’ dual density toys. This means that it’s got a firm inner core and a soft outer layer. I’ve never tried a dual density toy before so I was rearing to give these a go. And boy, they do not disappoint! The Slick is like the lovechild of a rock-hard toy and a jelly-soft dildo. It is firm enough to thrust vigorously but soft enough to feel comfortable and sensual. It’s like the Goldilocks dildo: neither too hard, nor too soft. It’s just right.

The Slick comes in two shades: Black and Purple Haze. I got one of each colour and I adore them both. I have several purple haze toys from Tantus, including my Silk dildos, and the pearly sheen on the silicone is so pretty. The black is shiny and dark and looks utterly formidable. I feel like such a badass when I’m wielding that midnight-hued cock in my harness. I also adore the fact that this toy doesn’t look like a cock. Many of Tantus’s dual density toys are realistic-looking dildos. Which is great if you like realistic toys….but I don’t. I much prefer toys that look phallic, but not like actual penises.

One of the first things I notice when I put these two toys side-by-side is the difference in sizes. There is a big leap between the small and the large, and initially I wished that there was a size in between. But once I began playing with the Slick dildos, I realised that each size had it’s distinct advantages.

The small Slick has quickly become my favourite dildo for pegging. The teardrop-shaped base makes it fit snugly into my harness. The tapered tip is perfect for gradual, easy insertion and it’s a great size. It’s big enough to provide a good amount of sensation and fullness, but it’s not so massive that it’s intimidating to the person on the receiving end. If your partner has a prostate, the spade-shaped tip and slight curve are great for gentle prostate massage. Because the tip is soft and squishy, it provides a gentle sensation rather than a harsh poke.

When I opened the box and saw the large Slick, I shook my head with disbelief. I truly didn’t think that this monster dildo would ever fit inside my dainty vagina, let alone feel good while doing so. I’m on the petite side and I know that my pussy is a tight squeeze. In addition to that, I have a fairly low cervix so I was sure that this dildo would be far too large to be inserted very far. But, as a dutiful sex geek I was determined to give it a red-hot go.

The Slick Large is the first sex toy to ever make me marvel at what my cunt is capable of. I know that, in theory, a vagina is able to accommodate a baby, and that there are loads of ladies who love being penetrated by big toys. But I never expected to be one of them. For years, I was deeply afraid of penetrative play, to the point where I saw a sex therapist. The thought that I would one day be tackling a toy of this magnitude, and loving it, would have been ludicrous to me a decade ago.

The dual density texture definitely helped me to enjoy the feel of this toy. Even though it’s nice and firm, it has a gentle softness that means it doesn’t feel harsh during play. The silicone is so smooth, the Slick lives up to it’s name, gliding in and out of your body. The head is nice and squishy, so it never once poked me in the cervix (a horribly un-fun experience that I’ve had with other, more solid, toys).

And that head….can we talk about the head for a second? The spade-shaped head on this toy is genius. Not only does it make initial penetration easier because it’s tapered, but it is incredible for G-spot play. If you’re new to G-spotting, I heartily recommend this toy. The head is so bulbous that it’s nearly impossible to miss your G-spot. And it’s so soft and malleable that it massages that spot so delightfully, moving with your body and gently compressing with your muscles as you orgasm.

In addition to looking and feeling great, the Slick is made with gorgeously smooth silicone, which means it’s body safe and easy to clean.

I absolutely love the Slick, and it has quickly become one of my favourite toys in my toybox. While I’m not yet ready to wear the title of Size Queen, I think the large Slick has at the very least made me feel like a Size Princess.

January 16, 2017 by nessbow

Toy review: Tantus Rumble

While I love a range of sex toys, I’m definitely a vibrator girl at heart. There’s something about the steady buzz of a vibe that gets my motor revving in a way that a dildo or a plug never could. So when Tantus announced earlier this year that they were adding a wand-style vibrator to their line of toys I was chuffed. The rad folks at Tantus were kind enough to send me the Rumble to test and review.

The first thing I noticed about the Rumble is how lightweight it is. Wand vibrators have a reputation for being on the heavy-duty side. I picked up a Magic Wand at Kink Fest earlier this year and nearly toppled over from the heft of it. I can imagine my arm wearing out before I was even close to orgasm with one of those monsters! But the Rumble weighs next to nothing. It is easily the lightest vibrator in my toybox. This lightness makes the Rumble ideal for people who have limited mobility in the arms or wrists.

The shape of the head is another thing I love about the Rumble. While most wands have a rounded shape, the Rumble is flatter on top, almost like a hockey puck. While I thought this was kind of odd at first, once I began playing I appreciated this shape. Having a flatter head gives you a lot more options when it comes to sensation. If you prefer a broader surface area for stimulation, then you can angle the entire top of the head on the area you’re playing with. With a slight twist, you can use the edge for more pinpointed stimulation. I also like that the head is mounted on a swiveling base. The base absorbs some of the movement and makes it great for grinding against. Sometimes when I’m using a vibe for clit stimulation, it can feel like I’m just mashing it against my crotch. But the Rumble feels more like a massage. It stays on target and moves with you as you thrust and grind.

The Rumble has been advertised as ” A vibe for every body”. It’s meant to be non-exclusive in terms of gender, and it can be used on a range of body types and genitals. I do think it’s one of the more body-inclusive vibrators that I’ve seen. It’s not as feminized as a lot of toys on the market, which come in only pink or purple and feature butterfly, floral or heart motifs. I spent a long time playing with this toy, both alone and with my male partner. I usually use it for clitoral or labial stimulation, but it also feels lovely on nipples. For folks with penises, it can be nestled snugly behind the balls or run along the penis. It is light enough to hold against a clit for orgasmic fun during penis-in-vagina sex and it feels great when you buzz the base of an anal plug that’s firmly in place. It’s also great for solo play with a dildo or on it’s own.

In terms of vibration quality, the Rumble lives up to it’s name. The vibrations are really deep and rumbly. This toy is relatively quiet, although it does get a bit buzzier on the higher settings. I’ve read a few reviews that stated that the Rumble is not powerful enough. Now, the amount of power you want in a vibrator is a very personal thing. Nobody wants a wimpy little buzz against their clit. But every body is different and the level of stimulation needed varies hugely across the board. I’m sure that for some people, the Rumble may not offer the whallop they require. But for me, it works beautifully. There are three speed settings and I’ve never gone above “medium” during a play session. The Rumble is plenty powerful enough for me, and I like quite a lot of stimulation.

Let’s take a moment to look at the control panel on this toy. The controls are very simple and easy to use. The power key switches the toy on and off. The + and – keys allow you to turn the intensity up and down and cycle through the different vibration patterns. I like having the option of moving back and forth through the patterns, rather than having to cycle through the entire range to get back to the one you accidentally skipped. I am also a fan of the on-off switch, because it means you can quickly flip the toy off if someone knocks on the door, rather than having to hold down a function button for several seconds. The controls are conveniently placed so that you aren’t likely to accidentally press them during play.

The only thing that disappoints me about this toy is that it doesn’t have a travel lock. Most rechargable toys have a locking function, so they won’t accidentally start buzzing in your bag (causing embarrassment or worse: a flat battery when you reach your destination). I am in a long distance relationship and I travel often to visit my partner. Sadly the Rumble has missed out on every single trip, solely because it can’t be locked.

The other downside to the Rumble is that it isn’t waterproof. While I rarely take my toys into the tub or shower, I do like waterproof toys for ease of cleaning. It’s so much simpler to be able to dunk a toy in the sink rather than carefully wiping it off. However, the buttery-soft silicone cover on the head of the Rumble slips off, so you can thoroughly clean this part in the sink. The head is the bit that gets the dirtiest when I use it, so it’s awesome to be able to wash it under running water. The handle does get a bit grimy but I’ve found a quick wipe with a cloth is enough to get rid of any residue. The fact that there are no cracks or crevices for dirt to hide on the handle makes this a relatively easy toy to clean.

The Rumble is body safe and great quality. It retails for $129.99 plus shipping, which is pretty average for a wand-style vibrator. However, you can use the code NESSBOW15 at the checkout to get a bonus 15% off your order. Tantus also have a few attachments for the Rumble, which are all made of body safe silicone and offer a range of different sensations.

The Rumble has quickly become my go-to vibrator for solo play. I adore the lightweight design and the deep vibrations. The electric blue shade makes it stand out in my collection, and I really don’t own anything else quite like it. I truly recommend the Rumble for vibe lovers, anyone who is keen to try a wand style vibe and folks with hand and wrist injuries that find traditional vibrators bulky and difficult to maneuver.

November 28, 2016 by nessbow

Product review: Doc Johnson Wonderland vibrators

This past Valentines Day, I chose to treat myself to some sex toys. I had been eyeing off the Doc Johnson Wonderland range of vibrators for months, and when Wild Secrets had them on sale, I snapped up The Pleasurepillar and The Mystical Mushroom. When they arrived I could barely contain my glee. I ripped into the packaging and was floored with wonder.

I was so impressed with the packaging of these vibrators. The level of detail and sturdiness is akin to what you would find wrapped around a luxury vibrator. Each toy came packaged in a hard box with a slipcover. When the cover was slid away, it revealed a gorgeous gold-embossed letter W and the word “Wonderland”. The boxes have a magnetic closure and the toys were safely nestled inside a perfectly-shaped foam case. These cases are small enough to use as travel cases to stop your toys switching on in your luggage, or simply for storing your vibrators when not in use.

As if the packaging wasn’t gorgeous enough, the appearance of the toys themselves was breathtaking. The colours are fantastic, and this line features shades not often seen in the realm of sex toys. The Mystical Mushroom is a deep royal purple and the Pleasurepillar is a charming turquoise. The shapes are also unique and exactly what drew me to the toys in the first place.

The Mystical Mushroom features a rounded nub surrounded by a flared disc to look like a mushroom. It has a lot of interesting textured grooves. I imagined that the tip would be ideal for pinpointed clitoral stimulation, while the rounded edges could feel wonderful against my labia. I had a different idea in mind for the Pleasurepillar. I had hoped that it’s hooked end would make it a great G-spot toy, and I imagined that the bumps and bubbles along the shaft would feel excellent during thrusting.

My excitement grew as I pulled the toys from their cases. Each one is made from a buttery soft silicone. They feel incredibly smooth to the touch and have very little drag. This silicone is of the kind of quality I’ve only seen on high-end sex toys, and is so impressive on a mid-range vibrator. Sadly, the packaging, appearance and texture of these toys are not an indication of how well they perform.

The Wonderland toys are battery operated. This can often be a stumbling point, as battery operated toys often lack power and you have to worry about having extra batteries on hand during play time. I’ve had a few battery operated toys that pack a real wallop, but sadly these two vibrators fall flat. The vibrations are extremely buzzy and don’t feel good against my skin. During use, they feel more like an annoying itch and tickle than a pleasurable rumble. Even on the highest setting, I had to really press the toys into my clit to get any real sensation.

While the shape of the toys has great potential in theory, in practice they really miss the mark. The Pleasurepillar was particularly disappointing in this regard, as it was just too short to hit my G-spot squarely. And once inserted, the vibrations were even further dampened. It was also very difficult to manipulate the Pleasurepillar for thrusting, as the toy doesn’t really have enough length to allow for a good grip during internal use.

I was also utterly frustrated with the placement of the power button. It is located right on the end of the toy. This means that it’s incredibly easy to inadvertently push it during play, switching the vibration patterns and ruining your flow.

The vibration patterns were another source of consternation for me. Each of these toys features ten vibration patterns and three vibration strengths. This was a huge drawcard for me, but again it fell over in the execution. For starters, when the toy is switched on, it starts on the highest vibration pattern. You then click the single button to cycle down to a medium vibration, then again for a low vibration, and then you cycle through the patterns. Now, when I use a vibrator, I tend to use it on the lowest setting to get warmed up, then slowly ramp up the intensity as I approach orgasm. I don’t know anyone who goes in the other direction. And the vibration patterns are varied and interesting, but the lack of power makes them almost indistinguishable on my clitoris. As far as my clit is concerned, the patterns are just a bland series of flutters and blips.

As a final insult, these toys are an absolute bitch to clean. The ridges and bumps on the Mystical Mushroom are just a lodging-place for lube and fluid and require scrubbing to get really clean. Additionally, these toys are only splashproof and can’t be submerged, which makes cleaning even more frustrating.

I was so disappointed with the Wonderland toys. The packaging and appearance were on point, but the performance was sub-par. I wish that Doc Johnson would make a more powerful version of these toys, maybe with a bigger shaft. I would love these shapes and that gorgeous silicone in a toy that actually had enough power to make playtime pleasurable, rather than an exercise in sexual frustration.

October 24, 2016 by nessbow

Why you need multiple sex toys in your collection

For years my sex toy collection consisted of a single vibrator. It was The Rabbit, the same one that Charlotte becomes addicted to on Sex and the City. I selected it hastily, because although I was keen at the idea of buying a vibrator, I was mortified to be in a sex shop and frankly intimidated by the selection. When I tried it out, I was pretty pleased with it’s performance and so it took up permanent residence in my nightstand. It remained there for four years until the motor burned out. Heartbroken, I started the search for a replacement.

My search led me to the Lelo Soraya. I had known that I wanted another rabbit-style vibrator because I liked that design and knew for sure that it would get me off. It was familiar, tried-and-true. I chose the Soraya because it seemed more sophisticated than it’s predecessor. While I’d been looking for my holy-grail vibrator, I’d seen a vast number of other toys that looked great, that I was keen to try. But something in my head kept telling me that I only needed one vibrator.

But after a while, curiosity got the better of me. I bought another new toy for myself. And then another. And then many more. And I’ve come to realise that owning a few different sex toys has a lot of benefits. Let me tell you why I think a woman needs more than just a single trusty vibrator.

It helps you break sexual patterns

Humans are creatures of habit, and this is very evident in the bedroom. Once we find a method of masturbating that feels good and brings us to orgasm, we tend to stick to it. While there’s nothing wrong with knowing how to get yourself off, it can make you a tad lazy in the bedroom. When you’re just going through the same motions over and over again, you may find yourself getting bored with your sexual routine. And that boredom can lead to dissatisfaction over time.

If you have just one toy that you use every time you masturbate, over time you’ll learn exactly how to use it to bring yourself to orgasm. If you have multiple toys, you can be a bit more creative. You’ll be less likely to get stuck in a sexual rut, and less likely to feel bored and frustrated. I firmly believe that sex with yourself should be just as varied and creative as partnered sex, and having a range of tools at your disposal will help to encourage you to try new things.

New sensations lead to new pleasures

Just as running through the same routine can become boring with time, it can deprive you of the chance to experience new kinds of pleasure. The more open you are to trying new things, the more likely you will be to find new things that feel great, and more ways to bring yourself to orgasm.

Having a few different toys in your goody drawer gives you a chance to give more things a shot and find new ways of pleasing yourself. I suggest getting a range of different toys that do different things. Maybe a few vibrators with different patterns of vibration, maybe some toys of different materials such as glass or silicone, maybe some anal toys. If something excites you, it’s worth trying out, just to see if you like it. You may discover a new favourite way to bring yourself joy.

Avoiding sexual numbness

Have you ever heard someone try to discourage sex-toy use by suggesting that it will make your junk numb? Well, that can actually happen. While it’s unlikely that you will lose all feeling in your bits, over time using the same sex toy in the same ways can desensitize your erogenous zones. Having a few different toys in rotation can help avoid this. Providing a range of different sensations, vibration strengths and patterns keeps your body guessing and avoids overstimulation and numbness.

Having a collection of toys can also help avoid becoming reliant on your toy to orgasm. As I mentioned earlier, we humans are creatures of habit, and sometimes when we find one way to orgasm, we become dependent on that method and aren’t able to come with a partner, or from different types of stimulation. Using a variety of toys helps to train your body to be comfortable with different sensations, and breaks you out of your comfort zone, so that you’re less likely to need that one particular toy to have an orgasm.

A toy for every mood

Just like our appetite for food, our sexual appetites can vary. On one night you might crave ice cream, while on another you might feel more like hot chips with gravy. One time you might prefer strong, pinpointed vibration, and others you might like something a bit softer, more diffuse. Having a selection of toys means that you can pick and choose the types of sensation you feel like on any given occasion, rather than having to rely on the same thing all the time. I found that when I started trying more toys, I felt more confident in indulging myself when I wanted a particular type of play. I began to learn more about my body, and I felt more consistently satisfied with my sex life.

I truly believe that having a variety of different toys to use is great for your confidence, your body and your personal satisfaction. I don’t think that anyone should restrict themselves to just one vibrator, when there is a whole world of toys just waiting to be explored.

Do you own more than one toy? Or do you prefer to stick with one faithful model?

October 3, 2016 by nessbow

Product review: Tantus Purr dildo

I don’t believe I’ve ever crushed as hard on an inanimate object as I have on the Tantus Purr dildo. This toy is undoubtedly one of my favourites and I’m extremely excited to share it with you today.

I purchased the Purr way back in January as part of Tantus’ new years sale. I was looking for a toy that had either great texture or dramatic size, and in the Purr I got both. My eyes were instantly drawn to the amazing pink pearl colour. This particular shade is just so pretty and it really does have a gorgeous pearly sheen to it that makes it look utterly magical. If pink isn’t your thing, the Purr also comes in Purple Haze, which is a stunning galactic purple shade.

To begin with, I want to talk about the texture on this toy. The Purr features a series of deep ribs down the shaft. I am always a little bit dubious when it comes to textured toys, because often I can’t feel those ridges and bumps during use. I’ve always scoffed at condoms that are “ribbed for her pleasure” because I’m yet to meet a woman who can detect those puny ribs, let alone derive pleasure from them. But the Purr is a whole other story. During entry, those ribs buzz a beautiful tune along my inner lips and drag deliciously inside me. The feeling is still subtle, but very pleasurable indeed.

The Purr is what I call a “front-loaded” toy, in that it has a pronounced head and is heavier towards the front end. I personally love toys that have this particular weight distribution because they feel wonderful against my G-spot. The Purr also feels great during shallow thrusting because of that big, bold head. The head is perfectly rounded which makes it easy to insert, although it’s not as tapered as some other toys I own.

Now, we need to talk about the size of this toy. When I pulled it out of the box, my eyes watered a little because I thought it would be much too big to play with comfortably. Before this, I always imagined that my vagina was a dainty little flower which should only be penetrated with slim, slender toys. And up until this point all of my toys fit that description. But the Purr made me realise how much I enjoy big toys. I don’t think I’ve quite earned the title of Size Queen, but I’ll comfortably admit to being a Size Princess. The Purr is 6.75 inches long and 1.4 inches wide at the head. So it ain’t little. But boy, does it feel great. The silicone is fairly firm, which means that it doesn’t have a whole lot of give to it. This and the girth of the toy means that I usually need a little warm up before I’m ready to jump in with this one. But once you’re properly ready, the size and width of this toy will fill you up and feel wonderful.

The flared base of the Purr is a very important feature. Firstly, it makes it harness compatible. It slips neatly into my harness and I honestly adore the way this looks when I’m wearing it. The flexibility of the silicone combined with the weight of the head give it a nice little ‘bob’ when you walk which I quite love. Additionally, the flared base means that you can use the Purr anally, for pegging or solo play. The size of this toy means that it is definitely not for beginners to butt play, but experienced pegging fans may enjoy tackling the challenge. Admittedly, I tried this one in my butt because I was dying to experience the intensity of those ribs, but sadly it had me beat. Although my vagina loves big toys, my butt still prefers the small, dainty variety.

You’ll also notice that the Purr has a hole in the bottom of the base. What on earth is that for? Well, it has two uses. The first are to insert a suction cup, which allows you to attach the toy to the shower, a chair, the wall or another flat surface for hands-free fun.

Secondly, the hole can be used to house a vibrating bullet to turn your dildo into a vibrator. The Purr comes with a small Tantus bullet, which fits snugly into the hole. Admittedly, I found the vibe very disappointing when used this way. The dense silicone really muffles the vibrations so they are pretty well dampened by the dildo. But on it’s own, the bullet really packs a punch. For a battery operated bullet, this thing has a fair amount of buzz. It operates with a single click-on-click-off button and only has one power setting, but it’s a nice basic bullet. I prefer using the bullet on my clit while thrusting with the Purr rather than using it in the intended way.

The Purr is made with Tantus’s gorgeous glossy silicone, which is smooth to the touch and completely body safe. It is waterproof and can be cleaned in the sink or even in the dishwasher for a really thorough clean.

The Purr retails for $74.21 on the Tantus site. However, you can use the code NESSBOW15 to get 15% off your purchase at the checkout. The quality of this toy make it well worth the price, and I’d happily recommend it to my readers. Although I purchased it nearly a year ago, and I have loads of other toys, this is one that I come back to over and over. It’s a winner in my eyes.

September 27, 2016 by nessbow

Oz Kink Fest haul

This past weekend I was lucky enough to attend the Oz Kink Fest Expo at the Fitzroy town hall. It was like a cornucopia of amazing sex toys, bondage gear, lingerie and sex positivity. Needless to say, I had an absolute blast and bought a stack of new goodies. I thought I would make a video to share my sexy treasure trove with you.

As I mention at the close of the video, I was completely blown away by how inclusive and open the expo was. There were people in various states of dress, some in full fetish gear and some in street clothes. There were a myriad of gender expressions, body shapes, relationship types and kinks represented and I didn’t hear a single nasty or creepy remark. Every person I spoke to was incredibly open and respectful and it was truly fantastic. I felt so proud and happy to be in such a sex positive space.

I bought a lot of toys at the expo. Online shopping good and all, but there’s nothing like shopping in person for sex toys. It’s wonderful to be able to touch the toys. to decide if you like the feel and weight of them. You’re able to press buttons and you’ll know right away if a toy is horribly buzzy or emits a noise that sets your teeth on edge. Best of all, you can talk to people who know exactly what they’re talking about and get lots of great advice when choosing your toys. The prices at OzKink Fest were insane, and I got a lot of things super cheap. There were toys in my haul that have been on my wish list for years, but this weekend I saw prices that I just couldn’t pass up. I’m very pleased with everything I got and I can’t wait to review them for you.

I hope you enjoy checking out what I bought. If you have any questions, please feel free to leave it in the comments or shoot me an email.

July 11, 2016 by nessbow

Product review: Doc Johnson Black Rose Blooming Ben Wah Balls.

Right now I’m betting that quite a few of you out there are thinking “What the heck are Ben Wah balls? Isn’t that a song from the 90’s by Blink 182?” Well yes, it was, but ben wah balls are more than a punk rock song. Ben wah balls are basically like dumbells for your vagina. You insert the balls into your vagina and wear them for an extended period of time, using your pelvic floor muscles to keep them in place. This is supposed to strengthen your kegels, which can lead to stronger orgasms and greater muscle control. Being the curious little bean I am, I had to snag a set of ben wah balls to try for myself.

I picked up the Doc Johnson Black Rose Blooming Ben Wah Balls on sale quite some time ago. I’ve had them for about a year now, and I’ve tried them a great number of times. And I have to come right out and tell you that I don’t like them very much.

Let me begin by pointing out a couple of features that I do like about these ben wah balls. Firstly, they’re silicone, which is my preferred material for sex toys. It’s body safe, it non-porous, it’s really easy to clean and it feels great. The silicone on these ben wah balls feels velvety and smooth, which is awesome for such an inexpensive toy.

That’s the second thing I like about these ben wah balls. They aren’t super pricey. I picked mine up for about $14, and generally they retail for around $27. This is a good price for a toy that you’re just trying out because if you don’t wind up loving it you haven’t blown a lot of cash. And ben wah balls are pretty basic, and not generally something that I’d want to spend a lot on.

The Doc Johnson Ben Wah Balls are very simple. They are just two weighted balls each about the size of a marble. They only come in one colour: black. They arrive packaged in a little velvet pouch.

They are also impossible to keep inside me.

Let me be frank. I used these things a lot. Like, a whole lot. The first few times I lamented that my kegels must be as slack as a deflated balloon, as the darn things kept slipping out. I tried inserting them further, I tried squeezing my kegel muscles when I felt them slipping, but nothing worked. It was only after trying another set of duoballs that I realised that the problem wasn’t my vagina…it was these darn balls.

I think the issue is the size-to-weight ratio of these ben wah balls. They are quite heavy, so when you insert them and then stand up, gravity takes hold and they start moving floor-wards. The small size means that your vaginal muscles don’t have much surface area to grip onto, so they slip out really easily. To work more effectively, I think the balls would have to be a bit larger so that your kegels could actually hold them in place or a little lighter so they don’t slip so easily.

Now, I know that there are other uses for ben wah balls besides improving your pelvic floor strength. For example, if you’re into BDsM (as I am), ben wah balls can be a very fun tool. If you’re a submissive with a vagina, it can be titillating to have your dominant order you to wear ben wah balls for an extended period of time. Even more so if you are required to wear them while running errands or out on a date. As fun as that can be, the Black Rose Ben Wah Balls aren’t ideal for this purpose. They just slip out far too easily for me to be confident wearing them outside the house. For around-the-house play they could work, particularly if you like humiliation as these are really difficult to keep in place.

These ben wah balls can also work nicely if worn during sex in certain situations. If you are having penis-in-vagina sex with a partner who is not well endowed, popping one or both of these into your pussy first will give you that full-up feeling, as well as being very stimulating for your partner. They also work nicely for providing extra stimulation during strap-on sex or fingering.

Overall, I’m not terribly impressed with the Doc Johnson Black Rose Blooming Ben Wah balls. They just didn’t work well for my body, and I’ve found a number of better sets of ben wah balls and duo balls. On the plus side, they are well made and inexpensive, but they just don’t perform as well as I’d hoped.

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