Things I love Thursday 29/6/2017


I’ve had a bit of a down week.  Work has been insane and I’ve had trouble dealing with the stress and mayhem.  But I’ve gotten myself through by just trying to focus on the task at hand and not looking at the piles of files that are growing all around me.  I’ve also found it helpful to think about the little things that have made me happy this week.  Let me share some with you….

  • Discovering filters on my phone.  I’ve been playing around with my new phone and the camera has lots of fun filters to play with.  I particularly enjoy the ones that morph your face or let you play dress-ups.
  • My boyfriend.  It is so fantastic to find someone who just gets me.  He and I have such similar values and views of the world that we are not only on the same page, but on the same line.  He has been incredibly supportive this week, and I’m very lucky to have him in my life.
  • Sweet potato and pear soup.  You wouldn’t think that those two flavours would go together, but they do.
  • Glow.  I’m only two episodes in, but I’m loving the 80’s costuming and girl-power attitude.  I can’t wait to see where it goes from here.
  • Diamond Dogs by David Bowie and Gravity Won’t Get You High by The Grates. Both have been playing on repeat in my flat.

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  • Epic cuddles with Branson, my Dad’s cat.
  • The Big Fat Quiz of the Year.
  • Sunday morning texts from my bf’s mother to check in with me.
  • Knitting loads of hats for friends.
  • Seeing my parents joyfully planning holidays in their new caravan.  They both work so hard and it’s amazing to see them finally getting to go on a real adventure together.
  • Huge coats
  • Making myself into a burrito with my doona.
  • London Breakfast tea from T2
  • The tippy-tap sound my fingers make on the keyboard when I type quickly.
  • Chocolate soy ice cream with a dollop of peanut butter on top.

What do you love this week?


Oz Kink Fest haul

This past weekend I was lucky enough to attend the Oz Kink Fest Expo at the Fitzroy town hall.  It was like a cornucopia of amazing sex toys, bondage gear, lingerie and sex positivity.  Needless to say, I had an absolute blast and bought a stack of new goodies.  I thought I would make a video to share my sexy treasure trove with you.



As I mention at the close of the video, I was completely blown away by how inclusive and open the expo was.  There were people in various states of dress, some in full fetish gear and some in street clothes.  There were a myriad of gender expressions, body shapes, relationship types and kinks represented and I didn’t hear a single nasty or creepy remark.  Every person I spoke to was incredibly open and respectful and it was truly fantastic.  I felt so proud and happy to be in such a sex positive space.


I bought a lot of toys at the expo.  Online shopping good and all, but there’s nothing like shopping in person for sex toys.  It’s wonderful to be able to touch the toys. to decide if you like the feel and weight of them.  You’re able to press buttons and you’ll know right away if a toy is horribly buzzy or emits a noise that sets your teeth on edge. Best of all, you can talk to people who know exactly what they’re talking about and get lots of great advice when choosing your toys.  The prices at OzKink Fest were insane, and I got a lot of things super cheap.  There were toys in my haul that have been on my wish list for years, but this weekend I saw prices that I just couldn’t pass up.  I’m very pleased with everything I got and I can’t wait to review them for you.


I hope you enjoy checking out what I bought.  If you have any questions, please feel free to leave it in the comments or shoot me an email.


Things I Love Thursday 17/7/2014

This week did not start out well.  I’m in the process of coming off my brain meds and so far I’ve done pretty well.  However, this week my anxiety and depression started creeping back in and I just felt overwhelmed and deeply blue.  I’ve been really busy at work and the stress of it caught up with me and I just broke a little bit.


But now I’m feeling so much better.  I stepped back and took stock of what I could do to introduce a bit more stability in my life to safe-guard me against stress and anxiety.  And I started working some of those strategies into my life. And so far, so good.

This week, I love:

– Asking myself: “Is this thing that’s bothering me really worth this much energy?  Am I allowing myself to be consumed with worries that aren’t based in fact? ” and really dismantling those thoughts that are preoccupying me.

– Yoga.  When I’m down, just 20 minutes on my mat works wonders.

– This video.  I can relate.


– Celebrating the birth of my friend Corrine’s baby girl, Charlotte.  I’m so excited for them both.


– Speaking up against sexual harassment and remaining calm while doing so.


– Watching Ringo get all blissed out over snuggles with my gentleman friend.  The two of them are best buddies.


– Getting a visit from my friend Christina and her husband Charles.  They are such a sweet couple and it was brilliant to have a quick catch-up with them.


– Finally finishing Breaking Bad.


– Attempting a difficult recipe and being really pleased with the results.


– Having one of my new work clients bring me a gorgeous tiger lily from her garden to keep on my desk.


– The new Indian restaurant that’s just opened up around the corner from my house.


– Looking forward to a Fawlty Towers dinner show.


– Re-watching Waynes World and quoting huge chunks of dialogue.


– Geeking out over grammar.


– Sunday-morning snuggles in bed.


What do you love this week?  If it’s been a hard week for you, what’s been keeping you going?

Some suggested New Years Resolutions

Do you struggle with new years resolutions?  Making them?  Keeping them?  Not rolling your eyes when your friends start listing all forty of the things they intend to do this year?

Me too.  I’m a big nerd, so normally setting goals is one of my favourite activities. However I usually set the bar too high.  Either I’ll make too many resolutions and get totally overwhelmed or I’ll make my resolutions too complicated and realise by March that it will take several years to actually achieve my goal.


This is me, kicking my resolution’s butt.

So last year I decided to take a different approach.  I made eleven small resolutions, one for each month.  ( I left out December, because it’s always crazy busy and I’d rather not try to cram anything else into my already-bulging calendar).  Then I focused on one goal a month.  It was much more manageable and I feel as though I accomplished more than I would have with my old method.

I’m here to help.  Firstly, you don’t actually need to set resolutions if you don’t want to.  If they don’t work for you, you don’t have to do it.  You have my permission to opt out.

If you want to, you can do as I’m doing and set one small resolution for each month.  It works for me.

To help you out, I’ve created a list of pre-made resolutions.  You can take your pick and grab one for each month.  Or you can just choose a couple to focus on this year.  Or you can do none of them.  Or you can write your own.  Whatever works.  These are just here to get you started.


Suggested New Years resolutions:

This year, I will:

– Limit the amount of media that makes me feel crappy about the way I look.  I will try to choose magazines, blogs and television programs with body-positive messages.

– Revisit a food that I don’t normally like to eat.  Try a different way of preparing it and give it another chance.

– Read 10 books that I’ve never read before.

– Make the effort to catch up with my dearest friends at least once a month.

– Start saving for that house/holiday/island that I’ve always wanted.

– Sign up for a class that teaches a skill I want to develop.

– Set aside one day a week for relaxation and recharging

– Go one month without buying anything that’s not strictly neccessary.

– Clean out my wardrobe with ruthless precision.

– Do the dishes every night before I go to bed.

– Stop making body-shaming comments about other people.

– Change my look with a new haircut/ tattoo/ wardrobe

– Spend more time with my family.

– Pull out my recipe books and try some new dishes.

– Find a form of exercise that I love

– Spend more time naked

– Start that project that’s been niggling at the back of my mind.

– Start looking for a job that doesn’t make me want to retch.

– Go to five concerts or live shows

– Have one T.V free night a week.

– Devote 10 minutes each day to clearing out the clutter in my life.

– Smile at strangers

Do you do New Year’s resolutions?  What are yours for this year?

Things I Love Thursday 4/4/2013

Hey internet buddies!  It’s time for another installment of Things I Love Thursday, in which I talk about all the things I love this week. Let’s begin.

This week, I love:

– Amateur theatre.  Ross and I went to see a production of Terry Pratchett’s Guards!  Guards!  on the weekend in Wangaratta, and it was totally brilliant.  I was particularly taken with the actress who played The Librarian.  She was smashing!  (for those who aren’t familiar with Terry Pratchett’s Discworld series, The Librarian is an orangutan who used to be a man until he shape-shifted as the result of a magic spell.  Brilliant).

– Pronouncing ‘theatre’ “Thee-ate-her” to sound posh.


– Sneaker boots and tights with hearts on them.

– The weather finally being cold enough for me to wear all the knitwear I bought in the middle of summer.

– Hot berry tea.

– Making progress on a tricky crochet project.  I’m making a bed jacket for my nana, and the pattern I picked is way more complicated than I thought it would be.  I’m managing pretty well though, I think.

DSCF7928-Celebrating my love of the 90’s by chopping my nails short and painting them a deep burgundy.

– Making my very own Dining Passport.  I always turn into a bit of a hermit in the colder months, and I thought that this would be an awesome way to coax me out of the house.  Plus, I learned so much about all the eateries in my area while I was making it.  Let me know if you’d like to hear a bit more about my dining adventures.

– The fact that my nana is out of hospital and safely at home.  She had a bit of a rough patch last week, but she’s doing much better now.

– Realising that you’re reading the same book as a stranger, telling them so, and having an awesome conversation about your shared reading material.

DSCF7934– For Easter, Ross bought me the latest comic book in the Shanower and Young Oz series to add to my collection.  I haven’t actually read it yet, but I can’t wait to finally crack it open.  I adore the cover art on this one.


DSCF7936The Wizard is juggling pigs.  Pigs!  Could that be any more awesome?

I bought Ross the Bluntman and Chronic comic book, because we are both such huge Jay and Silent Bob fans.  Jay and Silent Bob’s Super Groovy Cartoon Movie will be out later this year, and it features a lot of the characters from this comic.  When I found out that Ross hadn’t read it, I just had to grab it for him.

– Mowing the lawn.  So tiring, but so worth it when I see how lovely the yard looks when I’m done.

What do you love this week?  If you’re feeling up to it, leave a comment with your very own Things I Love Thursday list.

Things I Love Thursday 28/3/2013

Welcome to another edition of Things I Love Thursday.  If you’re new here, every Thursday I make a list of all the things that I’m smiling about this week.


I have to warn you that this week’s TIlT list is kinda crochet-heavy.


This week, I love:

DSCF7873– Walking in to find both cats curled up on my rainbow blanket.  They’ve both been feeling the chill lately.



It’s really hard to take good pictures of Ringo.  He tends to pull funny faces the moment I whip my camera out.  I really like these pictures because he looks natural in them.



-The cooler weather.  In a couple of weeks, I guarantee that I’m going to be whinging about how cold it is and how much I hate the chilly weather.  For now though, I’m excited by the prospect of wearing all the new jumpers I bought during Summer.  Also, I have a couple of things that I’ve crocheted that I’ll be able to use at long last.  Like my rainbow bobble blanket.


– Home-made pizzas.


– Mad Men. I’m up to season 4 now, and it’s fantastic.  I love that the era is starting to move into the mid-60’s, so the costumes are following suit.  I’m in awe of the decor and outfits in that show.


– Speaking of vintage fashion, my mother was cleaning out a cupboard and she came across an awesome crochet book which she promptly gave to me.  It used to belong to my nana, but Nan prefers knitting to crochet these days, so she was happy to let me have it.



I’m slightly annoyed by the fact that there is no publication date in the book, but judging by the patterns therein, I’d guess that it’s from the late 60’s or early 70’s.  It’s binding is coming loose and a lot of the pages have come out, but I don’t care.  Also, there are loads of other crochet patterns torn from magazines which my Nan has shoved between the pages.


There are quite a lot of things in the book that I am keen to make.  I’m feeling a lot more confident with my crocheting skills now, and I’m ready to try some more adventurous projects.


I took a few pictures of the book to share with you.

DSCF7885I cannot stop laughing at this picture.  I don’t know whether I’m more disturbed by this man’s crocheted vest-and-belt combo, his hairdo or the fact that he’s on a gondola.


DSCF7886I am in love with this model’s beehive.  I’m hoping to make one of these little shell tops soon.




I’m head over heels for this shawl.  I’ll certainly be making one of these sometime soon.


DSCF7888I have wanted a crocheted dress since I was about thirteen.  I think this might be a bit outside my skill-range, but I’d still like to try it sometime.


DSCF7889This little outfit is adorable!  Although it flips me out a bit to realise that this little girl is probably about my mum’s age now!


DSCF7890Orange table linens.  So 70’s.


– Getting up an hour earlier to read my book before breakfast.


– Cyndi Lauper. I’ve been reading her autobiography and it is so fascinating.  She’s a really interesting person, and she’s lived a much harder life than I ever could have guessed.


– Disney’s Brave.  How awesome is Princess Merida?  Finally, a princess who can hold her own!


DSCF7879-Finishing a bobble blanket for my mum for her birthday.  She loves blues and purples, so I chose a few shades and worked them into a cosy blanket for her.


– Going sans-eyeliner for the first time in ages and loving it.  I think I look heaps younger without it.


What do you love this week?  Don’t be afraid to share.  Don’t be afraid to let them show, your true colours, your true colours are beautiful like a rainbow (toldya I was on a Cyndi kick!)








I am proud of my size

After a lot of umming and ahhing, I’ve decided to take part in The Nearsighted Owl’s I am Proud of My Size link-up.  Rachele runs this super-awesome link -up over at her blog.  This is her description of what the link-up is all about:

“My mission:

All sizes are beautiful! Don’t be ashamed of your number or keep it from living your life and doing what you love. There is no perfect or wrong size. It doesn’t determine our worth and nobody has the right to judge someone’s health by their size. So let’s show the world that every size can be happy and that we are not ashamed!

How to participate:

I would love to see all different sizes represented in this link up. Whether you are a 0 or 32, participate! This is a weekly feature so each link up will be open for one week. You can add your link anytime during the week. All genders, sexes and non-genders are welcome to join in. Use whatever sizing you are most familiar with. You can link up with me every week with a new post or join in every once in a while! The rules are simple. Post a photo of yourself on your blog, feeling confident. Post a full body shot, so head to toe! State your size in your blog post or with a graphic on your photo. No diet talk, weight loss talk, negativity or any type of body shaming allowed. This is about being happy with your size and shape, not because it is socially acceptable, healthy or better than others. Then come back here and add your link using the link tool at the end of this post.”

A few weeks ago, I was leaving a comment on another blog when I realised that I am happier with my body now than I’ve ever been before.  My body isn’t any ‘better’ now than it has been in the past.  I haven’t improved my body, or made anything bigger or smaller.  The thing that’s changed isn’t my body, it’s my relationship with my body.

I used to be at war with my body.  I spent a huge chunk of my time and energy thinking about how to change the bits I didn’t like.  I would lament over how big my thighs looked in comparison to the rest of my body, the fact that I had the smallest breasts in my class, my pimples, and my crooked teeth.  I succeeded only in making myself incredibly ill and unhappy.  And during that time I was only able to see the negative things in other people.  I had spent so much time obsessing over flaws that I blinkered myself to the point that all I saw were imperfections in myself and others.

Now, I won’t pretend that I love my body 100%.  Like any pair of long-term mates, we have our occasional spats.  What I will say is that when I stopped focussing on all the things I thought were ‘wrong’ with my body, and started searching for the things I loved, it became easier to be pleased with myself.

I’m a size 6, and I’m proud of that.  One thing that you possibly don’t realise (unless you’ve met me in person) is that I’m quite short.  My mother is also very small, and growing up, she would always tell me that she hoped I’d be tall like my father.  She hates being short.  Not me though!  I think being short is awesome!  I think my size makes me look extra-cute.  I’m fun-sized!

I am grateful for all the awesome things my body lets me do.  Such as:

– Dance like a crazy woman

– Gives me a fab frame upon which to hang all my favourite outfits.

– Run like the wind

– Stretch and bend while I’m doing yoga

– Pull hilarious faces

– Have sex

– Hug my mates and my kitties.

– Look gorgeous in a pair of jeans.

And so many more incredible things.  Honestly, I am so pleased with all the fab things I’m able to do because of the body I was blessed with.

I’ve found it hard to get to a point where I can honestly say that I’m proud of my size.  It’s tricky to do that when we live in a culture that’s constantly prescribing how people ‘should’ look, and creating a habit of self-scrutiny and body negativity.  This type of environment makes it so difficult for any person to be proud of the way they look, because we’re constantly being given reasons why we shouldn’t like our bodies or suggestions for ways we can improve our appearance.  I think that if you’re unhappy with yourself, changing the way you look isn’t going to make you happier.  The only way to make yourself feel better about yourself is to start being kind to yourself and to stop focussing on the negatives.

I’d really encourage you to head over to The Nearsighted Owl to check out the other blog posts in the link-up.  Or, if you’re feeling really brave, why not participate?  I’d love to see your photos and read all about why you love your body!