I consider myself to be the epitome of duality, personifying a series of wildly conflicting attributes. Sweet and sexy, electric and macabre, vintage and modern, a homebody and a BDsM enthusiast; I am all of these things.
My fascination with yesteryear and obsession with geekery have influenced my personal style deeply. I have been known to wear head-to-toe vintage one day and then a gothic-inspired ensemble the next. You never quite know what I’m going to wear on any given occasion and I think that’s part of my charm. My thrify chic style quashes the notion that fashion needs to be expensive, or that style can be bought.
This blog was created in 2009 as an outlet for me to share my eclectic personal style and penchant for alternative fashion. It quickly grew into something so much more.
In addition to chronicling my wardrobe adventures, these days my blog is a place to explore and share my passions. I aim to talk openly about mental illness and the importance of self care. I am a fierce advocate for sexual positivity and attempt to break down stigma around topics such as masturbation, BDsM, bisexuality and sexual exploration. I boldly and honestly pen reviews of sex toys and provide essays on my experiences and adoration for all things kinky and erotic.
This blog is about encouraging readers to find themselves, fall in love with themselves and then treat themselves like the greatest lover they’ve ever had. It’s about celebrating your quirks and being proud of your eccentricities. It’s about carving out a haven in a hectic world and filling it with the things that make you happy. It’s about being gracious without losing yourself. It’s about feeling beautiful and being proud of the unique person you are. It’s about finding inspiration in the most unexpected places. It’s about living with curiosity and compassion. It’s about encouraging self-exploration, self-care and the preservation of self-worth.
I love: costume parties, cats, kissing, karaoke, kink, to-do lists, bold lipstick, cult movies, writing with ballpoint pens, knitting, hand-written letters, folk punk music,Tudor history, a perfect cup of tea, the smell of a wood fire, bare feet on soft grass.
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You can contact Vanessa via email at firstname.lastname@example.org.