With a new decade spread out before us like a blank page, it’s the perfect time to begin thinking about some resolutions. It’s a great opportunity to think about how you’d like to explore your kinks and enhance your sex life in the year ahead. To get the ball rolling, I’ve got 5 sex positive resolutions that you might like to adopt this year.
Learn a new skill
Have you always wanted to try rope bondage, but even the simplest knots leave you in a tangle? Perhaps you’re fascinated by flogging but feel terrified that you’ll mess up and hurt someone? The new year is the perfect time to start learning a new skill to add to your BDsM play. Start by finding some books on your preferred topic or see if there are any podcasts or Youtube videos that can give you a bit of basic info. Then look for workshops and skill-shares to gain some hands-on knowledge. The new year is a great time to begin learning something new.
Do some kinky reading
They say that the biggest sexual organ is the brain, and I reckon that’s not far from the truth. All of our fantasies, ideas and devious plots begin between our ears, and what better way to encourage them to grow than by indulging in some kinky reading? There’s a whole host of sexual reading material available, from salacious fiction to how-to manuals, from gender philosophy to kinky magazines. Set aside a little time each week to peruse books, blogs and magazines that expand your sexual knowledge and fuel your fantasies.
Open up about a hidden desire
I’d bet good money that most of us have got a couple of hidden desires that we’re anxious about exploring. Maybe there’s something you’ve always wanted to try, something that gives you a thrill but also fills you with fear or shame. Let 2020 be the year that you begin exploring that kink or fetish. I’m certainly not saying that you need to leap in and actually DO the thing, but perhaps you could begin with some private journalling or chatting with a trusted confidante. You might wish to start breaking down some of the shame and trepidation around your kink, doing some research or maybe finding a professional that can help make your desire a reality. Even taking one small step towards exploring something new can be extremely liberating and exciting.
Take care of your sexual health
Sexual health can be a scary topic for many of us, but looking after yourself is incredibly important. Knowing your STI status and actively taking steps to protect yourself and your partners is vital in the kink community. Book yourself in for an STI test and chat with your doctor about any issues or questions you might have. Learn about barriers such as condoms, gloves and dams and grab a supply to keep in your play kit. Make it your mission to look after yourself and ensure that you play safely in 2020.
Upgrade your gear
Are your restraints fraying? Are your paddles looking beaten up? Is your vibrator on it’s last buzz? The beginning of the year is a great time to clean out your toy chest and treat yourself to some gorgeous new gear. Take yourself shopping for some spanking new toys (and maybe some new spanking toys!), some lovely lingerie or some fresh fetish gear.
Whatever your kinky resolutions may be, I hope that everyone has a cracking new year and that all your raunchiest dreams come true in 2020.