When I first considered trying a butt plug I did a lot of research. I read books about anal, I searched for optimal first-time toys, I looked at comparisons of different types of lubricant and checked blog posts outlining backdoor tips. One thing I noticed was that a lot of the first-time info on using a butt plug was very focused on choosing a toy and inserting it, but almost none of those sources tell you how to remove the plug. So I wanted to take some time to touch on this subject, because I know it’s something that a lot of people (myself included) worry about when they’re considering trying a plug for the first time.
It’s not as difficult as you’d think
First of all, I want to tell you that getting that plug out of your backside isn’t as tricky as you’re imagining it will be. I always thought that taking a plug out was going to be really difficult. I think that’s because I’d read so many articles about how strong your sphincter can be, and how your butt can suck up toys that don’t have flared bases. All of this advice had given me the impression that my anus was akin to an industrial-strength vacuum, and once something was in there it would hold on relentlessly. And this just isn’t true.
Sure, your internal sphincter can be mighty strong, and your butt is capable of swallowing items that don’t have a base. But it’s also important to remember that your anus is designed to push things out. So if you’ve got a plug anchored in your butt, it’s not very difficult to remove it.
The most important thing you can do is relax. If you’re tense and worried about getting the plug out, then your muscles are going be tighter and you’ll have more resistance to contend with. So even if you’re nervous, try to chill out. Take a few deep breaths and exhale through your mouth. The more relaxed you are, the easier it will be to remove the plug.
Don’t stress about mess
Another misconception about butt play is that it’s messy. As long as you’ve prepared properly for play, and you’ve listened to your body, you’re unlikely to encounter any fecal matter. However, it’s also important to set your mind at ease so that you aren’t tense and worried. You might find it more reassuring to remove your plug in the shower or sitting on the toilet. It’s also a nice idea to have some tissues or a towel on hand to wipe your hands and carry the plug in to wash it off.
Pay attention to your jaw
One of the first places we begin to hold tension in the body is our jaw. If you’re feeling nervous, you might notice that your jaw begins to clench. To help you loosen up, take a few deep breaths and consciously relax that jaw. Unpeel your tongue from the roof of your mouth, separate your teeth and just let some of that tension go. This will send a message to the rest of your muscles to relax and you’ll find that you feel less tense after you slacken your jaw.
Just like you (hopefully) inserted your plug slowly, you should also take your time removing it. Sudden movements can shock your sphincter, causing it to tighten up. You could also bruise or tear the delicate skin in and around the anus if you use too much force.
Once you’re ready and relaxed, get into a comfortable position. Some people like to sit or squat, others like to stand with one leg on something sturdy. Whatever feels comfortable and allows you to reach the plug is perfect. Make sure your hands are free of lube before you begin so that you can get a good grip on the base of your plug. Once you’re holding the base, begin to gently pull it downwards, nice and slowly. Keep breathing and stay relaxed while you remove the plug. It can also help to very gently bear down as though you were passing a bowel movement. The combination of downward force and pulling slowly on the base should be enough to slide the plug out of position.
It won’t come out!? What do I do?
First of all, don’t panic. As I said at the beginning of this post, the more stressed out you are, the more difficult it will be to remove the plug. Relax, wash your hands, walk around a little and then try again. If you still can’t get the plug out on your own then it might be time to take yourself to the emergency room. Keep in mind that if you’ve used plenty of lube, chosen an appropriate toy and you’ve followed the steps above, having to get your toy medically removed is a very remote possibility.
Anal play is still a taboo that is shrouded with mystery and misconception. But in reality, it’s not as scary and difficult as we expect. Removing a butt plug actually isn’t as hard as you’d imagine. If you stay relaxed and take your time, you shouldn’t have any issues at all.