For years my sex toy collection consisted of a single vibrator. It was The Rabbit, the same one that Charlotte becomes addicted to on Sex and the City. I selected it hastily, because although I was keen at the idea of buying a vibrator, I was mortified to be in a sex shop and frankly intimidated by the selection. When I tried it out, I was pretty pleased with it’s performance and so it took up permanent residence in my nightstand. It remained there for four years until the motor burned out. Heartbroken, I started the search for a replacement.
My search led me to the Lelo Soraya. I had known that I wanted another rabbit-style vibrator because I liked that design and knew for sure that it would get me off. It was familiar, tried-and-true. I chose the Soraya because it seemed more sophisticated than it’s predecessor. While I’d been looking for my holy-grail vibrator, I’d seen a vast number of other toys that looked great, that I was keen to try. But something in my head kept telling me that I only needed one vibrator.
But after a while, curiosity got the better of me. I bought another new toy for myself. And then another. And then many more. And I’ve come to realise that owning a few different sex toys has a lot of benefits. Let me tell you why I think a woman needs more than just a single trusty vibrator.
It helps you break sexual patterns
Humans are creatures of habit, and this is very evident in the bedroom. Once we find a method of masturbating that feels good and brings us to orgasm, we tend to stick to it. While there’s nothing wrong with knowing how to get yourself off, it can make you a tad lazy in the bedroom. When you’re just going through the same motions over and over again, you may find yourself getting bored with your sexual routine. And that boredom can lead to dissatisfaction over time.
If you have just one toy that you use every time you masturbate, over time you’ll learn exactly how to use it to bring yourself to orgasm. If you have multiple toys, you can be a bit more creative. You’ll be less likely to get stuck in a sexual rut, and less likely to feel bored and frustrated. I firmly believe that sex with yourself should be just as varied and creative as partnered sex, and having a range of tools at your disposal will help to encourage you to try new things.
New sensations lead to new pleasures
Just as running through the same routine can become boring with time, it can deprive you of the chance to experience new kinds of pleasure. The more open you are to trying new things, the more likely you will be to find new things that feel great, and more ways to bring yourself to orgasm.
Having a few different toys in your goody drawer gives you a chance to give more things a shot and find new ways of pleasing yourself. I suggest getting a range of different toys that do different things. Maybe a few vibrators with different patterns of vibration, maybe some toys of different materials such as glass or silicone, maybe some anal toys. If something excites you, it’s worth trying out, just to see if you like it. You may discover a new favourite way to bring yourself joy.
Avoiding sexual numbness
Have you ever heard someone try to discourage sex-toy use by suggesting that it will make your junk numb? Well, that can actually happen. While it’s unlikely that you will lose all feeling in your bits, over time using the same sex toy in the same ways can desensitize your erogenous zones. Having a few different toys in rotation can help avoid this. Providing a range of different sensations, vibration strengths and patterns keeps your body guessing and avoids overstimulation and numbness.
Having a collection of toys can also help avoid becoming reliant on your toy to orgasm. As I mentioned earlier, we humans are creatures of habit, and sometimes when we find one way to orgasm, we become dependent on that method and aren’t able to come with a partner, or from different types of stimulation. Using a variety of toys helps to train your body to be comfortable with different sensations, and breaks you out of your comfort zone, so that you’re less likely to need that one particular toy to have an orgasm.
A toy for every mood
Just like our appetite for food, our sexual appetites can vary. On one night you might crave ice cream, while on another you might feel more like hot chips with gravy. One time you might prefer strong, pinpointed vibration, and others you might like something a bit softer, more diffuse. Having a selection of toys means that you can pick and choose the types of sensation you feel like on any given occasion, rather than having to rely on the same thing all the time. I found that when I started trying more toys, I felt more confident in indulging myself when I wanted a particular type of play. I began to learn more about my body, and I felt more consistently satisfied with my sex life.
I truly believe that having a variety of different toys to use is great for your confidence, your body and your personal satisfaction. I don’t think that anyone should restrict themselves to just one vibrator, when there is a whole world of toys just waiting to be explored.
Do you own more than one toy? Or do you prefer to stick with one faithful model?