This year was the second Christmas that I’ve celebrated as a single woman. I’ll admit that in the lead-up to Christmas I was a bit down about going it alone during the holidays. All the cheer of Christmas can be hard to swallow when you’re all by yourself. It gets tough fielding constant questions from relatives about your relationship status, reading gift guides for couples and knowing that you’ve got nobody to snuggle up with on Christmas Eve.
But it isn’t all bad being single during the holidays. In fact, there are a lot of fantastic things about celebrating a solo Christmas. I’ve been reflecting on all the ways that being single at Christmas is awesome, and today I thought I’d share my thoughts with you.
– There are no fights about whose parents to spend Christmas Day with. You can spend as much of the day with your own people as you’d like. You don’t have to rush about, trying to spend equal time with both families. You can just chill out and divide up your time however you’d like.
– There are no dramas about buying romantic gifts. You don’t have to agonize about finding just the right gift for your significant other. There’s no need to stress about how much to spend on your new boyfriend, or whether it’s too soon to buy them a “serious” gift.
– You don’t have to worry about opening a disappointing gift from your boyfriend on Christmas morning. There’s nothing quite like spending a fortune on a set of gorgeous cufflinks for your man, only to be presented with a gift voucher for JB-HiFi on Christmas morning.
– You can regale all of your married cousins with thrilling tales about your exciting single life over drinks on Christmas Eve.
-You get to entirely side-step the horror that is joint holiday card writing.
– There is nobody to disturb you during your post-lunch nap on Christmas Day. You can nap as long as you want, without some horny dude trying to fondle you in your sleep.
– You don’t have to suffer through wearing the itchy, ill-fitting “sexy” lingerie that your boyfriend bought you for Christmas. Nor do you have to open said lingerie in front of your parents.
– You can watch “Love Actually” and “A Muppet Christmas Carol” on repeat and there’ s nobody to poke fun at you when you tear up at the end.
– You are in total control of the Christmas decorations. You don’t have to compromise and hang the hideous decorations he inherited from his great-aunt. And likewise, there’s nobody to tell you that you can’t hang the stockings you made in kindergarten.
– There’s no need to stress about your post-Christmas-lunch body. I would always feel so self-conscious about eating too much on Christmas day, lest I be bloated and sluggish if my boyfriend wanted to have sex that night. Now, I know that any Christmas night sex will be a solo affair, and I don’t mind if I’m rocking a food baby.
– You don’t have to buy presents for in-laws. You don’t have to take part in your boyfriend’s family’s Kris Kringle and wind up buying a present for his aunt Marjorie who you’ve never met. You don’t have to buy presents for your lazy or clueless boyfriend to give to your parents.
-You can put Christmas hats on your pets without your boyfriend rolling his eyes at you.
-You can cuddle your cousin’s baby without your grandma making goo-goo eyes at you and cooing “Getting clucky are we? You two should start thinking about children soon, you know?”
Did you celebrate a solo Christmas this year? What are the best bits about being single at Christmas?
I bought a little pink Christmas tree and decorated it with nerdy and girly ornaments! Me and my ex never had a place of our own so we never shared a Christmas tree, but just knowing that I can have this damn thing every Christmas (or all year round if I’m too lazy to put it away) without feeling judged or needing to comply with someone else’s tastes made flying solo for Christmas just a smidge better. I’m glad you’re finding all the positive things about being solo on Christmas because this shit can be hard!
PS: Happy New Year! I hope 2015 is full of amazing and wonderful things for you ❤
And to you darling!
You’re right hon, it can be so very hard. But you’ve gotta just enjoy it however you can. I love the idea of having a tree of nerdy ornaments which perfectly reflects your tastes. This year I decorated my tree with frosted blue, silver and pink ornaments, because I was feeling inspired by Frozen. Sadly though, I didn’t get a single photo of it and I’ve already taken it down. Oh well.
You are rocking that snood something fierce!!! I wore my pine green one often this holiday season. They really seem to compliment holiday attire so well, I find.
Many hugs, joyful New Year’s wishes, and sincere thanks coming your way for each and every one of your awesome blog comments throughout 2014, dear gal.
And thank YOU for being such a loyal reader of mine. I can’t tell you how much joy your comments bring to me. A very merry New Year to you and yours.