I got an email from Lover.ly inviting me to weigh in on one of fashion’s biggest debates: is it O.K to wear white to a wedding?
To begin, I should point out that I’m not the kind of lass to adhere to fashion rules. For the most part, I find fashion guidelines a bit too hoity-toity for my liking. Most of them seem to have sprung into being around the same time that our society decided that ‘thinner is better’ and are centered around making you look as small as possible. Which is kind of pointless if you aren’t small. I mean, there’s nothing wrong with being bigger, or smaller in some areas and bigger in others. All bodies are different so what’s the point of trying to camouflage ourselves into looking like carbon copies of one another? I prefer the motto of: wear what makes you happy.
That being said, I’m kind of old fashioned about the whole “wearing white to a wedding” issue.
I wouldn’t wear white to a wedding. I simply don’t think it’s appropriate. If anyone’s going to wear white, it will be the bride. The bride’s wedding day is HER DAY and for that day, white is HER COLOUR. If she chooses to wear white, then I think she should be the only one. In a weird way, I think it’s kind of rude to wear white to a wedding if you aren’t the bride. It’s like stepping outside the boundaries of ‘guest’ and beginning to encroach on the bride’s sartorial territory.
The only time I would consider wearing white to a wedding is if I knew for sure that the bride wouldn’t be wearing white. If the wedding is more informal and you knew that the bride wasn’t planning on wearing a white dress, then I think it would be O.K to relax the rules and wear white if you choose.
So what would I wear to a wedding if not a white dress? Well, weddings are very exciting for me because they’re an opportunity to pull out all the stops and get dressed up to the eyeballs. I have a lovely collection of dresses that are too fancy or special for everyday wear, and a wedding is a great excuse to grab one of these beauties out of the cupboard.
The last time I went to a wedding, I wore this vintage cheongsam. I added patent leather shoes that were comfortable enough to dance in and funky textured hose. The time before that, I wore an emerald-green silk dress and a hat with a little veil on it. I feel that it’s perfectly O.K to get as dressed up as you like for a wedding, as long as you don’t wear white.
What do you think? Should you wear white to a wedding?