I had often thought to myself what it would be like to live on my own, back when I shared with housemates or lived at college. I never thought that I would be able to manage in a house by myself. Six months into living alone, I’m actually really pleased with my current situation. There are a lot of benefits to living on your own.
It’s not all sunshine and roses though. Solo living definitely has it’s pitfalls as well, and it’s not for everyone.
A little while ago I put a call-out on social media for my readers to submit any questions they had about living alone. Today, I’m going to answer those questions…
Is it expensive?
In my experience, living on my own is very expensive. When you’re by yourself, you have to cover all the household expenses including rent, utilities and groceries. When I shared houses with friends there was always someone else to split these costs with.
Although the bills in multi-person households do tend to be higher, paying a fraction of these bills still works out to be cheaper than paying the entire bill for a one-person household. For example, although there are two people using the electricity in a two-person house, there are a lot of appliances that are on all the time and use the same amount of electricity no matter how many people live in the house. So although bills do go up when there are more people in the house, they don’t neccessarily double or triple when you go to a two- or three-person household. So yes, it is quite expensive to live on your own.
Do you ever get lonely?
I do get lonely sometimes. However, I don’t get lonely as often as I expected I would. Also my bouts of loneliness have gotten less frequent since I started living alone.
I’m lucky in that I’m very comfortable with my own company. I’m an introvert and I enjoy being on my own. There are times when I do crave human interaction and contact. Luckily for me, I have family very close by and friends who are just a phone call or a text away. If I feel lonely, it’s easy to get in touch with someone who will cheer me up.
How do you deal with bugs and spiders in the house?
I laughed so hard when I read this question, because this was one of my biggest concerns about living alone! While bugs in general don’t worry me, I am deathly afraid of spiders. I had always gotten my boyfriend or my housemate to deal with creepy-crawlies, so I didn’t know how I would handle it when I was faced with one by myself.
I faced my fear of spiders a few months ago, when there was a Daddy-Long-Legs in my bathtub and I wanted a shower. I couldn’t handle the idea of washing him down the plughole, so I scooped him up and put him safely outdoors. It was scary, but I survived and so did the spider.
Bigger, nastier spiders are a different story though. I’ve only had one of those in my house while I’ve been on my own. It was a huntsman, sitting on the ceiling of the kitchen one night. I freaked out, but it was very late and I couldn’t justify calling someone to come and kill the spider at that time of night. So I decided to go to bed (with the door firmly shut) and deal with it in the morning. When I awoke, the huntsman was gone, so I didn’t actually have to deal with it at all!
What are the best parts of living by yourself?
Having total autonomy to fill your time with whatever you want. Cleaning the house and having it stay clean for hours. Not having to queue for the bathroom. Never arguing over what movie to watch each night. Being able to play dress-ups and have dance parties without anyone to giggle at me.
Also, I’ve become a lot more self-reliant. I’ve had to take total responsibility for myself which has made me a much stronger person. This hasn’t been easy, and I still have some work to do, but I’m very happy with my progress.
Do you ever feel afraid being on your own?
Honestly, no. When I lived in Melbourne I used to get freaked out when I’d be home alone and I’d hear a weird noise outside. In the country I feel a lot more secure.
There was one time when my neighbors had a huge party and things started getting violent. They were setting off fireworks (on a day of total fire ban) and screaming abuse at one another. It was pretty scary, and I felt tense waiting for the police to arrive. But that was the only time I’ve really felt afraid.
Would you ever want to live with someone else in the future?
Sure, but it would have to be the right person. I’m not about to give up my awesome solo-living lifestyle for just anyone. A person (whether friend or lover) would have to be pretty darn special for me to want to live with them.
Do you have any questions about living alone?
Fantastic and insightful post 🙂
Thank you so much. I’m glad that you enjoyed it.
I never even considered the whole bug situation whenever I think about living alone. I really want to move out of my parent’s house this year and I really don’t like the idea of living with someone else, but rent is so expensive for solo living D: I’m hoping to find a job that will allow me to do so. Thanks for this post! It gives me some things to think about 🙂
Good luck with your future move! Living away from home, whether on your own or with a housemate is daunting but really great too. If you’ve got any questions that you’d like me to answer, feel free to get in touch.
Thanks for the lovely post! Aren’t you scared that the spider is still lurking somewhere? I never even thought of the cost of living alone, it’s expensive enough with two people. I imagine I’d become really frugal and live off Mee Goreng noodles. I would be worried about getting sick living alone. I am currently having a relapse of that dreadful stomach ache that put me in hospital last year and I can’t really walk, move, or eat. I don’t know what I’d have done without Charles. It would have been soooo bad if I’d been living in another town alone, because then my parents couldn’t even come and help. Sorry I don’t mean to scare you, I’ve just had a really horrible few days which have made me appreciate my family and friends. Thanks for taking my mind off it with a great blog!
Awwww, I’m so sorry to hear that you aren’t well. I hope that you feel better soon.
I do still think of the spider sometimes! Every time I get one of my teapots off the shelf, I pray that it’s not lurking inside. I also always get a little shudder when I dust that corner of the ceiling, worrying that the huntsman is going to jump out at me!
Getting sick when you live alone is no fun. Luckily I’ve never been REALLY sick, but I had a bad cold last year and it sucked. There was nobody to buy me food or cook for me or wash my clothes. However my parents do live really close by, so I know that if I ever truly needed help they’d be here in a flash. Even when I lived in Melbourne, I always had friends close-by who were willing to take care of me if I got ill.
This is awesome, and HECK you are brave – no *way* I could’ve gone to sleep without knowing where that spider was, I would’ve been a wreck for days to come if I didn’t know its exact location, I’d be walking around in fear that it was going to surprise me at any moment! 😮 (Which is just absurd, I know. Jumping on a plane to a COMPLETELY foreign location without knowing a single soul? DOESN’T PHASE ME! Enduring a pregnancy and raising a child alone? Well, yeah, sure, it’s terrifying, but BRING IT ON! Facing a huntsman by myself? AAARRRGGGHHH, NOOO! 😮 )
Full disclosure: I lay awake for a LONG time that night, wondering if it was crawling around my room. In the morning, when I saw it was gone I conducted a pretty thorough search and couldn’t find it anywhere. I stressed out about it for ages.