Marriage is a topic that I’m very passionate about. Last week, when I heard that Kim Kardashian had filed for divorce after just 72 days of marriage, it sparked my ire.
I am a firm advocate for marriage. I don’t believe that everyone has to get married in order to be happy. I know several couples who have been together for decades, who have children and have no desire to tie the knot. These couples are no less elated than the happily married couples I know. Marriage isn’t for everyone, and I don’t believe that it’s a necessary ingredient for a happy relationship. However, I do believe that if you decide to take the plunge and get married, it should be taken seriously.
Marriage is a commitment for life. It isn’t something that you rush into without seriously thinking about whether you’ve chosen the right person and whether you’re suited for married life. It’s one of the most significant life decisions a person can make, and it should be treated as such. When you get married, you vow to love and cherish your partner, to the exclusion of all others, for life. Now, I’m not saying that I don’t believe in divorce (because, let’s face it, there are loads of legitimate reasons for getting divorced) but I am saying that divorce shouldn’t be seen as an escape route to be used when you get bored, or if things aren’t going your way.
I believe that a person should enter a marriage with the honest conviction that it will last for life. I don’t think that it’s okay to treat marriage as a temporary state- as something to do until the novelty wears off. A person who gives their marriage less time than it takes to brew beer is not taking the institution of marriage seriously.
Which brings me to the topic of gay marriage. I strongly believe that gay marriage should be legal. I believe that two people should have the option of committing to one another for life, regardless of their gender. I think it’s pretty poor that in Australia marriage is reserved for heterosexual couples.
There are many arguments that people who oppose gay marriage throw out that are utter BS. Among these arguments is the idea that allowing homosexual couples to marry would undermine the institution of marriage. I’ve always been confused about exactly how allowing gay couples the option of solidifying their commitment to one another by getting married would sully the idea of marriage. I don’t see how the gender of the people in a marriage relationship affects the validity or quality of their commitment.
However, I do see how douchebags like Kim Kardiashain getting married and divorced within a three-month period undermines the institution of marriage. The fact that straight people are able to get married in a big, white, internationally-televised wedding, declare their eternal commitment to one another and then call it quits a couple of months later is a joke. This is the kind of behaviour that damages the idea of marriage. It turns marriage into another social event, a temporary state of being, rather than a lifelong commitment. More than this, it’s a slap in the face to homosexual couples who would like to get married, and who would take that marriage seriously.
It’s ridiculous that Kim Kardashian can marry and divorce before the ink is dry on her marriage certificate, and that this behaviour is allowed because of the simple fact that she has a vagina and her partner has a penis. Meanwhile, homosexual couples are fighting for their right to have a marriage certificate at all. This paradox makes me angrier than I can put into words.
Do you think gay couples should have the option to marry? Do you think that Kim Kardashian’s behaviour is more undermining to the institution of marriage than allowing gay couples to wed? I’d be interested to hear your thoughts.